Identify Your Narcissist Right Now Using These 3 Signs No One Else Knows
Because they haven't lived with narcissists as family for over 20 years like I have
I will never forget the day I learned my father was a narcissist.
My mother woke me up early, while my father was on a business trip, and said “we’re going to the airport and taking a plane to Denver, and we aren’t coming back.”
In less than 10 seconds, the life and security I’d known for 14 years collapsed around me. I was totally alone, with no hope things would be okay.
It was the most traumatic day of my life.
But looking back, I realize it was the only choice my mother had.
My father was very abusive. The kind that makes you feel like shrinking to the size of an ant, crawling under a rock and never coming out.
But since I grew up with it, I didn’t know any different.
It’s strange though: everyone who knows my father doesn’t think of him that way. To most people he’s just a nice, well-meaning and ordinary guy.
So why did we flee halfway across the country from him?
I know now that’s because he’s a narcissist.
Unlike other abusers, narcissists work behind the scenes and never in the open. They emotionally threaten and scare you into doing what they want.
They use fear, guilt, and shame to weaken you and force you under their control.
Do you know someone who makes you feel like this? If so, you know that awful feeling doesn’t go away after the abuse: it cripples you for the rest of your life.
What’s worse is that anything can trigger that feeling at any time, and re-open those old wounds again.
But they don’t have to be your parent to hurt you, as in my case. They can be your boss, coworker, friend, sibling or spouse.
That’s what makes narcissists so dangerous: they’re usually the people closest to you. They “hide in plain sight” so you don’t even know they’re hurting you.
And you probably won’t know it’s happening, just that all of sudden you lack confidence, feel horrible about yourself and can’t do anything right… and there’s no hope of getting away.
It isn’t rare either: it’s happening all the time—and I bet you’ve been, or currently are, a victim to it.
And unless you know exactly what narcissists do and can identify them, you’ll never know they’re ruining your life. But you’ll always feel it, like a poison running through your entire body.
I’m going to take you inside this person’s head, so you can see what they’re doing and remove them from your life. Then they can’t hurt you anymore.
Which is why on this page, I’m going to share with you the 3 most important signs of a narcissist - so that you can spot a narcissist and get away before the abuse starts, or identify one you’re wondering about right now.
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I spent the first 14 years of my life in an emotionally abusive home.
But even though I got away, the crippling damage was already done.
The deep scars from that abuse hurt for years… through unhealthy habits like continuing to associate with abusive people… and damaging self-talk I had learned from my father.
But you can be prepared where I wasn’t. If my mother had known what the problem was and what was in store for us, she would have gotten me and my brothers out of the situation a lot sooner.
And if she had known this one trait that narcissists can’t hide, we would have escaped before it was too late.
A narcissist doesn’t care about you, only cares about themselves and deliberately makes you feel bad about yourself.
There are no exceptions. Narcissists cannot tolerate others feeling good—they only feel good when you feel bad.
They make disturbing threats and scare you to death because it makes them feel powerful and in control. Your problems aren’t important—you’re just a landfill for them to dump their problems.
They even like it: it makes them feel good to hurt you. And they won’t stop until you’re a dried husk crawling on the floor.
You may be wondering if only intimate relationships apply. The truth is narcissists can be anyone.
A friend, coworker or even a family member may have this disorder—as in my case.
But no matter who they are, they always make you feel bad about yourself. That’s their greatest weapon—undermining your self-confidence.
But the way they do it is so subtle that most people miss it.
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Want to hear something surprising? The American Psychiatric Association published the latest edition of its manual on mental disorders in 2013, and narcissism isn’t in it!
Strange how some of the most dangerous people you'll ever meet—for several reasons I’m going to show you—aren't in this manual.
I’ve collected everything I’ve learned about narcissists—from how they think to what they do and why—into a new guide The 16 Signs of a Narcissist.
Within its pages, I’ll show you:
- The 3 stages of the narcissist’s psyche, with what you can expect from them at any given time, including when they can become dangerous, page 11
- “Why did they do that?” is the most likely question you’ll be asking yourself on a regular basis around a narcissist. Their reasons for doing things are very complicated, but their motivations are very simple, page 13
- How the people around you shape your thinking and how you feel about yourself more than you know, page 46
- What’s the best way to control someone? By getting them to believe something that isn’t true. How narcissists project illusions of themselves to control your perceptions of them, page 65
- Why your relationship with a narcissist can only end in disaster, page 146
- 23 behaviors exclusive to narcissists you’re bound to come across, page 32
- Why they will never stop what they do, page 14
- Do you have regular bouts of depression and anxiety? Take a look at the people around you before you look at yourself too closely, page 51
- What you can learn about narcissists from the way children respond to them. Children can teach us a great deal about how we really feel about people and dangerous people in particular, because they haven’t learned to ignore their feelings like we have, page 25
- Know how you feel. Follow this principle and you will immediately recognize if someone has their your best interests at heart… or theirs, page 50
- Narcissists constantly test potential victims with their tricks. Do you recognize any of these 3? Page 17
- Feel like you’re always in this person’s debt? Turn to page 18 and find out why
- The difference between a narcissist and psychopath, and why a narcissist is more dangerous to you—page 140
- You can’t change who they are, but you can change how you think about them. Unless you learn how, you’ll always become trapped in their web, page 142
- How can such “nice” people be so mean? They’re nice for all the wrong reasons, page 113
- Narcissistic projection. The biggest problems they have with you will give you insight into what’s actually wrong with them, page 79
- How false talk distracts you from focusing on the real problems. Learning how to distinguish between false talk and the truth is crucial to breaking free from their control, page 39
- If they did have an end goal it would be this: To make you beat yourself up so they don’t have to. They’re probably conditioning you to do that right now, page 15
- The fundamental behavior patterns of every narcissistic person. You’ll learn how to recognize when someone is trying to manipulate you and get away, every time. Page 7
- Narcissists and their “perfect family”, page 71 (in Sign #2: Illusions)
- Why can’t they get their facts straight? Why do they remember things that never happened and forget important things that did? That’s because they change history to make themselves look good… they literally rewrite it and make you believe it too, page 89
- Think narcissists can’t become physically dangerous? They can and do, but it really only happens when you accuse them of being narcissists. Page 143
- Narcissists grew up in dysfunctional a family. Here are 3 signs they have a dysfunctional relationship with their family now and when they were growing up, page 105
- Why do you always seem to fail or just not get it right when they ask you to do something? It’s because you were set-up to fail, page 87
- Why they appear so stubborn and how it’s really a dysfunctional and persistent mode of thinking that never changes, Page 82 (Sign #3: Black and White Thinking)
- “It was an accident. I didn’t know.” Nothing is ever an accident with narcissists, everything is pre-planned and plotted to accomplish something for them, page 5
- The best way to recover from a narcissistic relationship is by being “selfish” and putting your needs first, page 146
- The different kinds of emotional abuse, and how the narcissist uses each, page 113
- They truly are dysfunctional adult children, page 12
- You probably have heard the old self-talk cliché, “If I just worked harder, things would change.” Even when it isn’t said, narcissists suggest that if you would only do *this one thing*, there would be no problems. Why this is totally false, page 48
- How is it that such dangerous people are able to fool others into thinking they’re really good people? That’s why they’re so dangerous, because they’re so convincing, page 72
- Narcissists people aren’t just manipulative, they have a deluded sense of themselves they impose on everyone else through illusions. Does someone you know do this? Page 66
- Why don’t they ever tell you they’re genuinely sorry for doing something wrong? Because they aren’t sorry and never will be, they’ll just do it again on their next chance, page 83
- Narcissists are thematic, they appear to have very complex behavior with a range of motivations but they actually base all of their self-image on one or more themes, page 132
- Now that you know their themes, you can understand what they envy and fear the most, page 140
- Trigger points that set them off, learn what narcissists’ sore spots are so you can avoid them, page 11
- Narcissists say things to irritate you and make you accept responsibility for their actions. They’re so common I’ve compiled a list of them. I bet you’ve heard them say at least some of these things to you, any of them sound familiar? Page 154
- Passive-aggressive behavior is common to narcissists, but the way it manifests is hard to notice, page 112
- The many different way of being mean, and what the real definition of “mean” is, page 41
- Despite how complicated their behavior can be, their objectives and personal feelings are actually very simple, page 13
- Why and how they make you feel so bad like no one else can, page 116
- Real conversations with a narcissist including a comprehensive list of how they talk to you in conversation, and how they make you feel as a result. Does this sound like anyone you know? Page 148
- The 3 different kinds of manipulative people and where narcissists fit into that picture, page 36
- The 10 traits of narcissists, a clear picture of why they are what they are, what they think of you and what drives them, page 3
- How narcissists treat their family and children, page 71
- Why they have to make you feel bad and always will, page 9
- Why is everything so chaotic and disordered around them? How come it never changes despite your best efforts? It’s because they create chaotic situations and like it that way, despite their claims to the contrary, page 15
- How and why they perpetuate the dysfunctional family hierarchy they grew up with, page 106
- Ever feel like you’re their parent and they're a child, or that they’re your parent and you’re the child? This serves an important dual function for narcissists, page 12
- Narcissists and “personal responsibility”, page 129
- What they say, how it’s different from what they really do and why, page 138
- Do they really think they’re perfect? It’s a long story, but yes and no, page 128
- Narcissists seek to control your perceptions, but most of their control isn’t real but an illusion in itself, page 75
- They talk about all kinds of things they want to do or are going to do, but do they really have any life goals? No, they don’t. They have behaviors they want to instill in you, but no end goals to speak of, page 10
- The narcissist’s psyche. Look for symptoms of emotional dysfunction in their behavior to find out what they aren’t telling you, page 6
- Why do they act so differently to different people? Page 70
- We all have rights, but narcissists consider these 6 privileges their exclusive rights that you aren’t welcome to, page 39
- Just what are they really thinking when they say that? Page 12
- What they really think of you, look at how they treat you and talk about you to other people, page 57
- The narcissistic spectrum. The difference between people with narcissistic tendencies and full-blown narcissists, page 37
- Cyclic instability and why you never get anywhere with them. It’s not you, page 35
- Actions speak louder than words. Watching a narcissist’s actions and comparing them to what they say is the only way of knowing what their real intentions are towards you, and their motivations, page 4
- How they get other people to abuse you for them, page 44
- Say goodbye to your favorite hobbies and closest friendships, they can’t allow them, page 92
- The opposites principle: why most of what they say and do is the direct opposite of how they feel, and how you can use it to find out what they really want from you, page 72
- Narcissists don’t believe anything—they latch onto things that make them look good to other people, page 76
- Getting away is just the beginning. Learning how to recover is the next step to ensure that you don’t get wrapped up with another narcissist. While recovery should be a book of its own, here’s my best advice for you, page 145
- And so much more...
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And I’m willing to bet 99% of psychiatrists haven’t lived with even one narcissist—or have half the firsthand experience I do dealing with them.
So you know narcissists are subtle—they use covert tactics to control you.
They’re so good at staying hidden they fool most people… so you have to look with a critical eye to see it’s happening.
The key is noticing what they do and not what they say.
Telltale Sign #2 is they must be in contact with you most or all of the time.
Narcissists use talk to control you.
They brainwash you into believing they’re good people who can be trusted and respected.
And talk is the only thing that opens you up and allows you to be influenced by them… without being suspicious of their intentions.
They love to establish themselves as an authority in your life—so you'll regularly confide in them.
Full self-disclosure opens you up to their controlling tactics, and that’s when the abuse starts.
They must also be in constant communication with you because they’re dependent.
They need you to feel safe.
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